This philosophy from Author Sheryl Sandberg really resonated with me last year, as I processed my grief after losing a loved one. It helped me as I worked out what the next phase of life was going to be like for me. The thing is – most of us are in fact living our Option B, C or even D, as when big stuff happens in life that is out of our control, it can create a shift in mind set, or the need for change.
So how is option B going for me?
I have been reflecting a lot over the past week as we approached the Anniversary, which I’ll admit has had quite an impact on me. While I don’t want to be defined by what has happened, writing about it is cathartic in a lot of ways. Taking some time out to see how things look today also helps.
Taking the plunge to start my own business
It was one of the scariest and most rewarding things I have ever done. Having a new focus was key and I knew I had to do it my way. Simply, I wanted to work with good people with the same ideals who wanted to work with me and have fun along the way. I am happy to say that is in fact happening, and 1 year on Fraser People is taking on a life of its own.
I heard a saying somewhere that out of our pain we find our power. It’s certainly what has driven me. I’ll always be grateful for the support I have received – so here’s to you all kicking the shit out of your option B, C or D!
For me, taking the plunge into self-employment is the end result of my journey following the sudden death of a loved one last year. It may sound cliché but I now understand why many people effect change in their lives after suffering a loss.
Grief can be a baffling experience. I can say without hesitation I have never felt anything like it. It’s something you move through not get over. It can create a huge shift in your outlook.
Some people decide it’s time to do something radical like volunteering in Africa, moving cities, or re-train. Some choose to retain the status quo. It’s a personal journey so the outcome is different for everyone.
Grief became the catalyst to start my own business – and consequently, start this new blog. I should probably have begun with a topic like ‘recruitment tips’ or ‘how to write a good CV’ – that would be the easy option, wouldn’t it?!
But first I wanted to share why Fraser People is more than just a name to me
It’s scary to put yourself out there, and I (like most of you), have had that voice in my head creating all the usual objections about why we can’t do something rather than why we can. But hey, to quote US research Professor Brené Brown: “Courage starts with showing up and letting ourselves be seen”.
So here goes…
Throwing in a paid job and taking several months out last year to contemplate life, in general, was exactly what I needed to do. Hanging out at the beach with our much-loved dog, Frodo, was just the tonic. With family, friends, and some wonderful clients as a sounding board, it became clear to me that starting my own business was what I really wanted to do.
Being able to build a business that fully embraces the values I believe in: strong relationships, honesty, and exceptional customer service is incredibly important to me. So I’ve taken everything I’ve learned from my life’s journey so far and found the inner strength to jump right in and do things my way.
I’m proud to say I’m now re-energised and grateful to have a new focus. “Life is short” is no longer an over-used term from my point of view. Instead, I’m embracing tech executive and author Sheryl Sandberg’s philosophy: “Option A is not available so let’s kick the shit out of Option B!”